|Posted by firstname.lastname@example.org on April 27, 2021 at 9:00 AM|
I remember asking my children, when picking them up from school, "How was your day?" This was met with an eye roll and a sigh, 'Nothing!" Then, I would begin a whole lecture on, 'how much they should have learnt,' 'who did they talk to?' 'what did they eat for lunch,' etc.
It took me a while to realise that if I wanted to get a different response I needed to ask in a different way.
I think one of the best questions I asked was, 'What did you learn, today, that you could teach me?" Even if I knew the topic or subject, I feigned ignorance (this wasn't difficult when it came to Algebra!).
My little ones would leap, with fervour, into 'teacher mode'. I would listen, intently, and watched as they came alive with excitement. They were teaching Mum?! (I learnt that this - ?! - is an Interrobang!)
After that, I made a concerted effort to ask a different way. It encouraged conversation skills with their ability to explain, explore and examine their responses.
The icing on the cake was when my son arrived home one day and said, 'Mum, tell me two good things that happened today!"
"Well," I said. Let's sit down and have a cuppa so I can tell you all about it...